A Canadian man's friendship with his wife, a former best friend of his, has left him feeling uneasy. The situation began when the woman ghosted her best friend, "Ian," after over a decade of friendship and open discussions about their personal lives. Ian severed ties without explanation, but it was only recently that the Canadian man discovered his wife had continued to maintain contact with Ian online.
The problem lies in the fact that Ian's relationship with the Canadian man's wife is more than just casual; they engage in activities like playing games together and commenting on each other's posts. The Canadian man expressed concern for his well-being, advising his wife not to continue the friendship after Ian hurt him so severely. However, she chose to ignore this advice, viewing it as implicit permission.
The Canadian man recently found out about Ian's marriage when one of his daughters tied the knot, revealing that Ian and his wife have been maintaining a deeper connection than he initially thought. When asked by the Canadian man why she remained in contact with Ian, his wife did not respond.
Dear Abby advises the Canadian man to share how deeply he was hurt by Ian's ghosting with his wife, explaining that this might persuade her to reevaluate their friendship. However, some readers have questioned the Canadian woman's motivations and whether she may have been aware of the reasons behind Ian's sudden severance of ties with the Canadian man.
In a separate response, Dear Abby addressed a situation involving a mother who became seriously ill and was told by her daughter that it would be better for her to stay in a nursing home. The mother refused, eventually recovering and returning to work, but still struggling to forgive her daughter for her past behavior.
The problem lies in the fact that Ian's relationship with the Canadian man's wife is more than just casual; they engage in activities like playing games together and commenting on each other's posts. The Canadian man expressed concern for his well-being, advising his wife not to continue the friendship after Ian hurt him so severely. However, she chose to ignore this advice, viewing it as implicit permission.
The Canadian man recently found out about Ian's marriage when one of his daughters tied the knot, revealing that Ian and his wife have been maintaining a deeper connection than he initially thought. When asked by the Canadian man why she remained in contact with Ian, his wife did not respond.
Dear Abby advises the Canadian man to share how deeply he was hurt by Ian's ghosting with his wife, explaining that this might persuade her to reevaluate their friendship. However, some readers have questioned the Canadian woman's motivations and whether she may have been aware of the reasons behind Ian's sudden severance of ties with the Canadian man.
In a separate response, Dear Abby addressed a situation involving a mother who became seriously ill and was told by her daughter that it would be better for her to stay in a nursing home. The mother refused, eventually recovering and returning to work, but still struggling to forgive her daughter for her past behavior.
I'm really concerned about the situation here... like, what's going on with this woman? She ghosted Ian after 10 years of friendship without a word and now she's maintaining contact with him online? That's some shady stuff right there 
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. I mean, I get why she wants to hold on to their friendship, but shouldn't she be considering how it's affecting the people around her? Her husband's hurt and stuff... 
. Maybe she didn't realize the extent of Ian's betrayal until now? And honestly, I feel bad for Ian too - ghosting can be super hurtful 
. But I don't think it's fair to say that his wife is just being insensitive or whatever 
. She might actually genuinely believe she has a deep connection with him 
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my ex bf used to hang out with my wife all the time before we even dated lol idk why she didn't think that was weird or something now I know why...my wife has zero boundaries btw 
I would've totally told my wife to ghost Ian if I were in her shoes but honestly it's good that he found out about Ian's marriage and stuff...maybe it'll make her realize how messed up their friendship is 
on the other hand I'm a little salty for you, Canadian man 
doesn't seem right to me... but at the same time, their past friendship is legit a deep one, so I get where Ian's wife might not wanna just cut ties with him. 
maybe it's time for her to have an honest convo w/ her hubby about why she's keeping in touch? 
this is like when someone asks you how much they mean to you, but then they start playing games with your feelings without even asking if you're okay. its like the canadian man's wife is trying to hold on to something that's already gone... a piece of her old life or her friendship with her ex bestie. 
, but idk what it could be 
As someone who loves organization and structure (hello, formatting!), it's interesting to see how people can get so tangled up in their emotions. 
. Maybe she should've listened to her husband when he told her to end things with Ian in the first place 
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