This is how we do it: 'Her work crush led to us having clinging-on-for-dear-life sex'

Relationship Experts Reveal The Secret to 'Clinging-On-For-Dear-Life' Sex

In a candid interview, couple Verity and Darya share their journey of overcoming relationship woes and discovering the key to a fulfilling sex life. Their story is a refreshing take on the conventional notion that desire should be all-consuming and uncontrollable.

Verity, who had been in a long-term relationship with Darya for 20 years, revealed that their sex life had become stale due to a lack of communication and trust issues. The couple's differing approaches to intimacy - Verity being a slow burner, while Darya was a fast burner - were the main culprits behind their sexless periods.

"We didn't talk about sex because we thought it would mean admitting we were done," Verity explained, adding that months could go by without any intimate connection. The couple's reluctance to discuss their desires and needs led to an imbalance in their relationship, causing tension and frustration.

The turning point came when Darya confessed her feelings for a colleague, prompting Verity to confront the issues with their sex life. "I felt like I'd already lost everything, so I might as well be honest," Verity recalled.

As they began to open up about their desires, Verity and Darya realized that their approach to intimacy needed to change. They started by setting aside time to simply lie together, stroke each other's bodies, and see where the moment took them. This new dynamic allowed them to build desire consciously, rather than relying on instinct.

"I finally felt able to talk openly with Verity because I thought I'd already lost everything so I might as well be honest," Darya said. Their conversations about sex became more fluid, and they discovered that they could feel safety and desire simultaneously.

The couple's newfound approach to intimacy has led to a more fulfilling sex life, with sex becoming an integral part of their daily routine. Verity noted, "If you had told me 18 months ago that sex could be like this between us, I wouldn't have believed you."

Their story highlights the importance of communication and trust in relationships. By embracing vulnerability and openly discussing their desires, Verity and Darya have transformed their sex life from a source of stress to a joyful expression of love.

In a world where desire is often portrayed as all-consuming and uncontrollable, Verity and Darya's relationship serves as a refreshing reminder that intimacy can be built and nurtured with intention, care, and respect.
 
🤔 so they say their sex life became stale because they didn't talk about it lol what a surprise right but seriously how long did it take for them to realize the importance of communication in their relationship like 20 years is a pretty big gap if u ask me anyway i'd love to see more stats or studies on this topic and less focus on individual couples stories its hard to generalize to everyone's experiences 📊
 
Umm, I think they're saying sex shouldn't be all about being super passionate and intense all the time... but at the same time, isn't it weird that they had to wait until one of them confessed their feelings for someone else to open up about their own desires? Like, didn't they just get tired of the lack of intimacy and have that as a conversation starter already?

And what's with this "clinging-on-for-dear-life" sex thing... isn't it kinda weird to make sex sound like you're trying not to die or something? I mean, I guess if your partner is neglecting your needs, that can feel pretty desperate.

But at the same time, I think their new dynamic sounds really cool. They've found a way to talk openly and honestly about their desires, and now they have this amazing connection... so like, maybe it's all about finding that balance? 🤷‍♀️💬
 
I mean, I'm not surprised at all that this couple found their way to a more fulfilling sex life by just talking things out... 🤷‍♀️ It makes so much sense! All those times they went months without intimacy because they didn't want to "lose" the relationship or seem weak? Forget about it. That's just creating more drama and stress. The fact that Darya confessed her feelings to her colleague and Verity was like, "Okay, let's talk about this" is just genius 🤓. I love how they made intimacy a conscious thing again, setting aside time for each other just to relax and enjoy the moment. It's all about finding balance and communication in relationships. And honestly, their sex life sounds amazing now! Who needs all that passion and intensity when you can have a fulfilling connection with your partner? 💕
 
I mean, who knew that the secret to not totally losing your mind in a long-term relationship was just talking about it? Like, Verity and Darya's story is literally the ultimate proof that communication is key (who knew?). It's crazy how they were able to find desire again by being more open and vulnerable with each other. I guess you could say their sex life went from stale to satisfying... no pun intended 😜💕
 
omg this is so relatable 🤯 i mean we've all been there right? feeling like you're just going through the motions in your relationship but really you're just avoiding the elephant in the room aka not talking about sex 💕 it's crazy how Verity and Darya's experience can be a reminder that intimacy isn't always about being all-consuming, sometimes it's about building desire consciously together 🤝 their approach to setting aside time for each other and being open about their desires is literally life changing 🙌
 
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