Family therapist on handling heated dinner table conversations: "Take a deep breath"

As the holiday season approaches, many Americans are bracing themselves for the inevitable: heated dinner table conversations with loved ones they may not always see eye-to-eye with. For those navigating these treacherous waters, a word of wisdom from Samantha Quigneaux, a licensed marriage and family therapist, is timely: take a deep breath.

In an era where social media amplifies even the most minor disagreements, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that we must resolve every issue immediately. But this approach can lead to a toxic atmosphere, with everyone becoming increasingly agitated and entrenched in their positions. Quigneaux cautions against such a dynamic, arguing instead for an intentional pause.

"When the conversation starts to heat up, I encourage people to take a deep breath," she advises. "It's not about avoiding the issue entirely; it's about giving yourself space to collect your thoughts and respond thoughtfully." By taking a moment to compose themselves, individuals can begin to de-escalate tensions and refocus on finding common ground.

This approach is particularly crucial in today's polarized society, where we're often forced to engage with people who hold strongly opposing views. Rather than trying to "win" the argument, Quigneaux suggests that we should aim for a more nuanced understanding of each other's perspectives. By listening actively and seeking to understand the underlying concerns driving someone's viewpoint, we can begin to build bridges rather than walls.

Of course, this isn't to say that difficult conversations will ever be easy or painless. But by adopting Quigneaux's advice and approaching these discussions with empathy and patience, we can create a safer space for sharing our thoughts and feelings – even in the midst of disagreement. As the holidays approach, let's take a cue from Samantha Quigneaux: breathe deeply, listen carefully, and seek to understand one another, rather than simply trying to "win" the argument.
 
πŸ€” You know what's wild is how much drama we put ourselves through during holiday dinners? πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ Like, can't we just take a chill pill for once? 😎 Samantha Quigneaux makes total sense, though. Taking a deep breath and calming down before responding to someone is like the ultimate stress-reducer. I mean, think about it - when you're all caught up in the heat of the moment, you're not even listening to what the other person is saying... πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ It's easy to get caught up in "winning" the argument, but honestly, who cares? Can't we just try to understand each other for once? ❀️ And I love how she says it's not about avoiding the issue entirely, it's about responding thoughtfully. Like, a deep breath can make all the difference between a huge fight and a minor disagreement 🌈
 
πŸ€” I feel like we're living in a world where everyone's so used to just shouting their opinions without really hearing what others have to say... it's getting super exhausting 😴. Samantha Quigneaux makes sense, though - taking a deep breath and listening carefully can actually make those awkward conversations kinda bearable πŸ™. I mean, we're not all gonna see eye-to-eye with our loved ones, but being able to have a decent chat about our differences is way more important than "winning" the argument πŸ’―. And honestly? It's a lot easier said than done... still gotta work on that for me too πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ
 
πŸ™ you know what they say about family gatherings getting more intense as the holiday season gets closer lol I'm like that too, my aunt always makes me feel like I gotta choose between her and my mum it's crazy how people can get so heated just because they don't see eye to eye ugh anyway i've been trying to tell myself its better off this way maybe taking a deep breath and all that jazz will help us actually understand each other instead of just shouting over each other πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ
 
πŸ€” I mean, come on, folks! You gotta be kidding me if you think just 'takin' a deep breath' is gonna magically fix all your problems at the dinner table. πŸ˜‚ It's easy for marriage and family therapists like Samantha Quigneaux to say that, but what about when you're dealing with actual trauma or hurtful stuff? Just taking a breather ain't gonna cut it, fam. πŸ’β€β™€οΈ I get where she's comin' from, but let's not oversimplify this. We need more than just a quick pause to address the real issues at hand. πŸ™„
 
πŸ€” you know what's crazy? we're always so quick to assume our fam members are gonna have the "tough conversation" but nobody ever thinks about how they can actually affect it πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ like samantha quigneaux says take a deep breath and let your thoughts settle that way you don't wanna be that person who's all worked up and yells at grandma 😬
 
omg u guys gotta try this out rn 🀩 think about it like if u r havin a convo with ur fam about politics or somethin n u start gettin all heated but then u just pause 4 a sec breathe in some air nd think abt what u wnt 2 say next lol it cud make all the diff πŸ˜‚ samantha quigneaux is literally a lifesaver πŸ‘
 
πŸ€” people gotta chill for once... cant have meaningful convo when youre stuck in react mode πŸ’₯ just take a deep breath, step back, and try 2 see where theres common ground 🌈
 
πŸ€— I feel like we're living in a world where everyone's got an opinion on everything πŸ™„. Social media can be so toxic, it's easy to get caught up in the drama and just want to shout over people who have different views. But Samantha Quigneaux is right – taking a deep breath and giving ourselves space to think can really help us navigate those tricky conversations 🀯.

I love that she's saying we shouldn't try to "win" arguments, but instead aim for understanding each other's perspectives 🀝. It's so easy to get caught up in trying to be right, but what if the real goal is just to connect with someone and find common ground? 🌈

It makes sense that this approach is especially important now, when it feels like everyone's got a different opinion on everything πŸ˜‚. But I think it's something we can all practice, whether we're arguing with family members or strangers online πŸ‘₯.

Let's try to take a cue from Samantha Quigneaux and prioritize understanding over being right πŸ€—πŸ’•. It won't always be easy, but I think it could make a big difference in how we communicate with each other πŸ“±πŸ’¬.
 
πŸ€” this is like so true for me, fam! i've had these super awkward convo with my fam at christmas dinner in the past and it's like everyone gets heated up real quick. but then we take a breather and calm down and it's actually pretty chill 😊 the key is just to listen to each other without getting all defensive and try to find that common ground, you know? πŸ€—
 
man... i'm so done with these family gatherings already πŸ™„. like, can't we all just agree to disagree for once? it's always the same old thing - someone brings up a sensitive topic and everyone starts getting all worked up... meanwhile, our aunt is over here eating all the eggnog 🀣. honestly, i think samantha quigneaux is onto something with taking a deep breath before responding... but let's be real, how many of us are gonna actually do that? probably not me, at least πŸ˜‚. it's just easier to jump in and start arguing than to take a step back and try to understand where the other person is coming from. and don't even get me started on social media - it's like the whole world is one big argument 🀯. anyway, i guess her advice isn't all bad... maybe we can try to be a little more patient and understanding this holiday season? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ.
 
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