Concerned Grandmother Feels Overwhelmed by Disruptive Behavior of Her Daughter's Children
A concerned grandmother in Nevada is struggling to deal with the unruly behavior of her granddaughter Monica's children, aged 8 and 9. During their annual family vacations, these young boys consistently exhibit bad manners, using profanity and disrespecting adults.
The grandmother and her husband have repeatedly expressed their concerns to Monica, but she always becomes defensive, insisting that they are the ones being unfair and mean-spirited. Monica has been known to argue with teachers and school administrators when her children don't get their way, which is causing tension among family members.
The situation has become so dire that one of Monica's cousins has decided not to attend future family vacations due to the children's behavior. The grandmother is at a loss for how to handle the situation and feels like she needs advice on how to address this issue with her daughter.
Dear Abby, your columnist, recommends that the grandmother distance herself from Monica and her children, as their behavior is unacceptable and could be further damaging to other family members. She suggests that Monica should take responsibility for teaching her children good manners and respect for others.
In contrast, Dear Responsible in Texas seeks advice on how to care for his 71-year-old wife who has been struggling with health issues for over a decade. He feels overwhelmed by the burden of caring for his wife and is looking for resources or support groups that can help him navigate this challenging situation.
A concerned grandmother in Nevada is struggling to deal with the unruly behavior of her granddaughter Monica's children, aged 8 and 9. During their annual family vacations, these young boys consistently exhibit bad manners, using profanity and disrespecting adults.
The grandmother and her husband have repeatedly expressed their concerns to Monica, but she always becomes defensive, insisting that they are the ones being unfair and mean-spirited. Monica has been known to argue with teachers and school administrators when her children don't get their way, which is causing tension among family members.
The situation has become so dire that one of Monica's cousins has decided not to attend future family vacations due to the children's behavior. The grandmother is at a loss for how to handle the situation and feels like she needs advice on how to address this issue with her daughter.
Dear Abby, your columnist, recommends that the grandmother distance herself from Monica and her children, as their behavior is unacceptable and could be further damaging to other family members. She suggests that Monica should take responsibility for teaching her children good manners and respect for others.
In contrast, Dear Responsible in Texas seeks advice on how to care for his 71-year-old wife who has been struggling with health issues for over a decade. He feels overwhelmed by the burden of caring for his wife and is looking for resources or support groups that can help him navigate this challenging situation.
I feel so bad for this poor grandma, she's just trying to have a good time with her family but these kids are being super rude and it's affecting everyone around them 
. It's not like the grandma is being unfair or mean-spirited, she's just trying to set some boundaries and teach them some manners 
. I think Monica needs to take a step back and have a serious talk with her kids about how their behavior is affecting others 
. And maybe instead of blaming everyone else for her kids' bad behavior, she should try being more mindful of it herself 
. It's not easy being a parent, but someone's gotta do it 
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. I mean, I've heard of kids having bad days, but consistently using profanity and disrespecting adults? That's not cool. And to make matters worse, Monica gets all defensive when her parents try to talk to her about it 
. It's like she thinks they're the ones being unreasonable.
. Distance yourself from the situation if you can't handle it anymore. You can't pour from an empty cup, and it sounds like Monica is draining everyone around her with her behavior. But at the same time, I feel bad for her too - she must be feeling really helpless and frustrated 
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The grandma's dilemma is like a puzzle 
- how to balance being loving & supportive with setting boundaries? 
Monica's behavior is not just annoying, but also potentially damaging to others 
. I'd suggest the grandma have an open convo 
with Monica about her concerns, using "I" statements to express feelings instead of accusations 
. Maybe they can find a way to work together on teaching those kiddos some good manners 
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Has he looked into adult day care or respite care services? 
. this grandma is just getting frustrated 'cause no one's taking responsibility for the kids' behavior... meanwhile monica's all defensive like she can't see what's wrong with her own kids 
. I think the concerned grandmother needs to take a deep breath and have an open conversation with Monica, but not about blaming each other – about finding solutions together 
. And honestly, if one of her cousins is already feeling overwhelmed and deciding not to attend future family vacations, that's a pretty big red flag 
. Something needs to change before it's too late 
. Monica needs to take responsibility for teaching her kids good manners and respect, you know? Like, basic life skills, right? 
It's not rocket science. And grandma should def set some boundaries with Monica and the kids, it's her vacation too 
. I wouldn't recommend distancing herself entirely, though - family is everything! 
! Like, grandma's gotta step in here, right? Can't Monica see how her kids' behavior is affecting everyone else? And yeah, Monica's being super defensive – not her fault she needs to be taught some manners herself 
. I mean, 8 and 9-year-olds using profanity at family gatherings? That's just crazy! Anyways, I feel bad for grandma, but maybe she should take a deep breath and try having an actual conversation with Monica instead of just distancing herself...
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