A wife secretly visits her ex-husband multiple times while forbidding her husband from speaking to or visiting his own past love interests – unless they're present.
It's understandable that she wants to keep the distance between herself and him, but this isn't a simple matter of moving on with her life. She had promised her current partner that no one else would enter their lives without them being present. This makes it look like she is living by two different rules – one for her marriage and another for her past.
Her ex-husband's friend may not be an issue, but it seems like she can visit with him whenever she wants. On the other hand, her husband isn't allowed to see or talk to any women from his own past unless they're present. This creates a sense of unfairness in their marriage and indicates that she may still have strong feelings for someone else.
The wife's refusal to see a counselor because of major depression raises concerns about her mental health and willingness to work on it. It is not clear if the issue with her ex-husband has anything to do with this, but one thing is certain – ignoring the problem will only make things worse.
Perhaps it's time for the husband to reevaluate what he wants from his marriage. If she is still holding onto her feelings for someone else, then maybe it's not meant to be.
It's understandable that she wants to keep the distance between herself and him, but this isn't a simple matter of moving on with her life. She had promised her current partner that no one else would enter their lives without them being present. This makes it look like she is living by two different rules – one for her marriage and another for her past.
Her ex-husband's friend may not be an issue, but it seems like she can visit with him whenever she wants. On the other hand, her husband isn't allowed to see or talk to any women from his own past unless they're present. This creates a sense of unfairness in their marriage and indicates that she may still have strong feelings for someone else.
The wife's refusal to see a counselor because of major depression raises concerns about her mental health and willingness to work on it. It is not clear if the issue with her ex-husband has anything to do with this, but one thing is certain – ignoring the problem will only make things worse.
Perhaps it's time for the husband to reevaluate what he wants from his marriage. If she is still holding onto her feelings for someone else, then maybe it's not meant to be.
i mean, i get where she's coming from and all, but it just seems so unfair to her husband who has no say in what he can or cant do... she's basically creating a double standard and it's gonna hurt him in the long run. 
and yeah, major depression is not something you should ignore, that's like, basic common sense... if she's really struggling with that then maybe they should get some couples therapy or somethin' to work through this mess together 
This whole situation sounds super toxic and controlling 
. The wife is basically making all these rules for her own life without considering how they affect the people around her. Like, what if she wants to move on from her ex but still needs space? Her current husband deserves better than being told who he can or can't talk to 
. Maybe it's time for him to think about his own happiness and not settle for a relationship that's not balanced 
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But seriously, I feel for the husband in this situation. It's like he's stuck in a marriage where his wife is playing by two different sets of rules. Like, if she can visit her ex whenever she wants, but he can't see his old friends... it's just not fair 
And yeah, ignoring major depression doesn't solve anything. Maybe the husband needs to have a serious chat with himself about what he wants from life – and that marriage 
. She's all about control and favoritism - if she can just swoop in see her old flame whenever she wants, but her husband gets shut down 100%. That's not healthy in a marriage. And don't even get me started on the whole 'only talk to past loves with them present' thing... that's some messed up attachment issues right there 
. She needs to take responsibility for her own feelings and work through them, but instead of getting help, she's just ignoring it all 
. Her husband deserves so much better than this drama queen 
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, and ignoring it won't make things better... unless she starts talking to someone about it 
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. And yaaas, let's not forget about that major depression red flag - it's like she's putting on a brave face while hiding her true feelings 
. It's not about blaming her ex or making excuses; it's about recognizing the signs of an unhappy marriage 
. Maybe it's time for some tough love and honest conversations 
According to a recent study (43% of people in unhappy marriages reported feeling like they're living with two different rules) - basically, if you can't have an open conversation with your partner about their feelings and past relationships, it's gonna create some serious trust issues 
. So, is this ex-husband friend just an easy way out? 
. The wife refusing to see a counselor because of depression is super concerning. She needs help, but if she's too proud to get it, that's just gonna make things worse for everyone involved.
maybe she's trying to keep her husband in the dark about something 
Like, how can you just have multiple lives going on at once? One where you're all in with your current partner and the other where you're still got feelings for someone else from like, way back? It's not about keeping distance or moving on, it's about honesty and respect. And that whole thing about counseling...