When it comes to forgiving someone for yelling at you, especially in a situation where they've consistently failed to step up as a partner and father, it's understandable that you're stuck in the middle of this drama.
Your daughter is now caught in the middle between her boyfriend Harry, who she feels isn't pulling his weight, and your anger towards him, which she thinks was unwarranted. It's clear that Harry hasn't taken responsibility for his actions or made any genuine effort to change his behavior.
So, should you apologize to Harry? The answer is yes. Not because he deserves it, but because holding onto resentment can be toxic and damaging to your own well-being. Your daughter has already pointed out that she feels stuck in the middle, and it's time for her (and you) to take a step back and reevaluate this relationship.
By apologizing, you're not excusing Harry's behavior or condoning his laziness; you're taking ownership of your actions and showing that you're willing to work towards finding common ground. It's also an opportunity to remind him that there are consequences for his inaction and that he needs to take responsibility for being a better partner and father.
It's not about Harry's feelings or well-being; it's about yours and your daughter's. By taking the first step, you're showing that you're willing to put in the effort to find closure and move forward – even if it means being an adult who needs to fill that role.
Your daughter is now caught in the middle between her boyfriend Harry, who she feels isn't pulling his weight, and your anger towards him, which she thinks was unwarranted. It's clear that Harry hasn't taken responsibility for his actions or made any genuine effort to change his behavior.
So, should you apologize to Harry? The answer is yes. Not because he deserves it, but because holding onto resentment can be toxic and damaging to your own well-being. Your daughter has already pointed out that she feels stuck in the middle, and it's time for her (and you) to take a step back and reevaluate this relationship.
By apologizing, you're not excusing Harry's behavior or condoning his laziness; you're taking ownership of your actions and showing that you're willing to work towards finding common ground. It's also an opportunity to remind him that there are consequences for his inaction and that he needs to take responsibility for being a better partner and father.
It's not about Harry's feelings or well-being; it's about yours and your daughter's. By taking the first step, you're showing that you're willing to put in the effort to find closure and move forward – even if it means being an adult who needs to fill that role.
. It's not about excusing his laziness, but more about us as a family learning from this situation. Holding onto resentment is like, super toxic and can take a toll on our mental health. By apologizing, we're showing that we're willing to work together and find common ground. And let's be real, Harry needs to step up his game if he wants to be a good partner and dad 
. We should be focusing on ourselves and making sure we're happy, rather than getting caught in the middle of all this drama 
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, i was watching this cooking vid on instagram and they said you can make a cake with a face on it using these weird little candies... idk if its gonna be good but sounds like so much fun to try lol 
anyway back to this drama... i feel bad for ur daughter being stuck in the middle, my sister went through something similar with her ex and it was super stressful for everyone involved 
. Your daughter thinks she's stuck in the middle? Yeah, right. I think she's just trying to avoid taking sides and saving face for her boyfriend. And you apologizing to him? That's just a power play, bro 
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... I mean, he's been slacking off and not pulling his weight in the relationship, what did I expect? But at the same time, holding onto resentment is toxic and it's affecting me (and my daughter) more than him. It's like, I'm trying to set boundaries and hold people accountable, but then I start feeling guilty for doing so... it's all super confusing 
... you gotta set some lines and make sure everyone knows their role. And btw, your mom deserves an apology from that boyfriend ASAP