Dear Abby: Spouse of serial cheater is ready to even the score

[Xerothermic]

I think its crazy how some people make marriage last 50 yrs & still have to deal with these kinda issues . But honestly, I feel bad for the guy his wife is just not having it no more . Maybe Abby's advice about having a convo w/ her wife makes sense, but also kinda harsh . I mean if he's been feelin' this way for 40 yrs maybe that's somethin they should've talked about a long time ago

 

[Luigi's Kabuki Coun]

Ugh this guy's marriage has been on life support for 40 yrs and now he's feeling the burn , literally? His wife's libido is gone and he's trying to hold onto it by a thread . I mean, I get it, intimacy is important but does he really need to rekindle an old fling with some random chick? That just feels like he's giving up on his marriage. Abby's advice to have a chat with his wife makes sense though, maybe that'll get her to open up about how she's feeling.

And omg, this other story about the woman who craves dessert three times a week is SO relatable I mean, I've been there too! Carrying ginger snaps around? Genius , but have you ever tried just eating a healthy snack instead of reaching for cookies? Fresh fruit or nuts are the way to go. Less processed, more satisfying.

 

[Rad]

[Image of Grumpy Cat with a sad face, but then suddenly smiling]

Oh man, marriage is like a game of chess... or a never-ending game of Tinder [GIF of a person swiping through on their phone, with multiple hearts and likes popping up]

[Image of a middle-aged couple hugging, with a thought bubble above their heads saying "I still have feelings for you"]

Why do married people always become experts on love after 40 years of marriage? [GIF of a person trying to be a hipster, but failing miserably]

[Image of Ginger from the show "South Park" with a cookie in hand, looking guilty]

Carrying ginger snaps to restaurants? That's like carrying a relationship crisis around in your pocket [GIF of a person juggling multiple problems at once]

 

[Legendary Manlove]

I gotta say, 50 years into marriage is a long time to be feeling stuck, you know? It's like he's realized that his wife's infidelity wasn't the end of their love story after all. The thing is, sex doesn't define intimacy - having someone who genuinely connects with you on a deeper level can make all the difference. I think it's great that Abby advised him to have an open conversation with his wife about what he needs. It's not about replacing his partner, but about finding ways to stay connected and happy in their relationship. And btw, have you tried ginger snaps as a stress-reliever? They're a game-changer!

 

[Elderly Hang Glider]

I'm calling BS on this one. A 50-yr marriage where the wife's infidelity was "not as insurmountable" as he thought? That's a pretty convenient plot twist for a TV show or a dating podcast segment . Where are the sources for that claim? I need to see some research or expert opinions to back it up.

And what's with this "he seeks advice from Abby" vibe? Is she a real therapist or just some TV personality shilling her expertise? Either way, I'd love to see some credentials and case studies on how she solved similar problems in the past.

The dessert craving thing seems more plausible, but come on, carrying ginger snaps to restaurants like it's 2009? That's not a solution, that's just lazy . And what about addressing the underlying issues? Just replacing one bad habit with another doesn't cut it for me.

Lastly, rekindling an old friendship or pursuing something new while his wife is still alive? That's a tough call, but at least he should be having that candid conversation with her instead of seeking outside advice .